How you do anything is how you do everything

I don’t know if I have that quote right, but that’s how I remember it. That’s how I say to myself almost daily.

Yesterday I went to the grocery store and watched a woman leave her cart right in front of another car and drive away. Our store isn’t that big. And the parking lot is littered with those little cart huts (ports). But she dumped it in front of a car that was closest to her and drove away.

Here’s what immediately went through my head. Oh, you’re a cheater. Not like a big-time-bad-check-writing-identity thief… but you’re a I’ll get away with it gal.

I guarantee you that she doesn’t stop fully at stop signs. I’ll put money down that when she sees a pedestrian at a cross-walk – she keeps driving. I bet you she hovers over the toilet in public bathrooms and ruins it for the rest of us. Is she a bad person? Who knows. Is she a mini-cheater? Absolutely.

That may be too harsh. Too judgmental. I think if I was really to dive in I’d use words like entitled, selfish, or rude. Like the world owes her something. But that could be over the top. Who knows, maybe she was in a hurry. Maybe she volunteers with sick children or puppies and she was rushing to an emergency.

But I know people that volunteer with sick children and puppies. They live the value of “exist for others”. They worry about the other person. The person that comes after them. They would put the cart back where it belonged. They stop for pedestrians. They wipe the seat off. You get it. How they do anything is how they do everything.

That other lady is short-cut city.

Short-cuts are not all bad. I like short-cuts. I’m not saying I’m a saint. I am fully human. Failing daily as proof. But I keep that phrase in mind as I go about my day. No task is too small to not do right. No action is too small to not do right. Specifically when it impacts someone else.

Could she be a swell gal and just have had a sloppy moment? Sure. Could she also be the gal ok with throwing gum wrappers out her window? Probably.

It’s hard not to start painting a complete picture of her based on that action. Which is not good. I fully acknowledge that this is not the trait that I’m the most proud of. I’m working on amending it. But it’s hard.

I’m assuming because this chick blatantly didn’t do the right thing in public, in private she’s probably worse!

I know this little diatribe says more about me then her. But I can’t help it. This is what’s in my brain. Rattling around fighting for space with Bravo shows.

Little actions matter. Take the cart back to where it belongs. Do the thing that’s a little harder. You are not alone in the world. In this town. In this parking lot. Every little action matters.

Do you agree? Am I nuts? What phrases and quotes rattle in your mind daily? I can’t be the only one.

3 year old blog

Yesterday was a big blog day around here – wifemothereventplanner turned 3. Happy Birthday blog. Mazel to us! It’s been so much fun. Yes I don’t write as often as I should, but that doesn’t mean I’m not still in love… With blogging. Absence makes the heart grow fonder right? Ahem.

Connected to this blog is an email, wifemothereventplanner@gmail.com.
I don’t check it often because it’s a scary, dark place where weirdo people from the internet lurk and hide. But buried in that pile of crap are actual, normal humans asking questions. So! As my gift to you – because I’m a humanitarian like that – I’ll answer a few of those questions. Enjoy! And be scared for me.

Are those your real kids or do you get the photos from stock photography? I’m starting a blog but don’t have kids – should I get some photos of kids?

Umm. Yes. Those are my real kids. Although I never even considered the stock photography option. Look for a future post of me wearing a bikini on the beach. It’ll totally be me.

Love your blog but don’t push the posts. Don’t write unless you have something interesting to say.

Ok. Thanks.

How do you decide what to write about and what to keep out?

Easy, if I think you’ll enjoy it in any way I write it. I don’t write as editorial -many bloggers do that successfully. But giving you my opinions on politics, religion, etc isn’t my bag. I don’t think you really want to read another take on Obamacare or Prop 8. I do think you want to read about my obsession with Kate Middleton! Am I right?

You should change your name to TVloverwhonevercommentsoneventplanning.

Wow. Ok, point taken. More posts about TV shows.

Please protect your kids and stop posting their pictures.

Thanks mom.

What advice would you give to new bloggers? Is it worth it?

No advice. Just start writing. There are no rules. And it’s definitely worth it.

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Blog Tag

One of my blogger buddies tagged me to play. Thank ya http://www.coffeepoweredmom.wordpress.com!

The rules for playing blog tag are….

  • You must post the rules (done)
  • Answer the questions the tagger set for you in their post (done)
  • Create eleven new questions to ask the people you’ve tagged (or use the existing ones) (uh oh…..)
  • Tag (eleven) people with a link to your post (double uh oh)
  • Let them know they’ve been tagged (as with a game of regular tag…the fun stops with me- sorry! )

I’m a loser. Sorry. If there’s a game of sit-down-quietly-and-craft-with-hot-cocoa, I’m your gal.

Ok – here are the questions I answered. My answers are in red (not because I’m angry, jaded or bitter – just because I had some fun with font colors)

  1. I’m not big on having regrets. What was your biggest regret and why do you think that it helped you to get where you are today? After all, if you had changed it, something else about you would have changed. I regret not learning how to walk in those crazy stripper high heels. I think about it often. I’m not sure how it would have helped me today – better calve muscles? 
  2. Where is your favourite place to be? In my bed, at home.
  3. How much money do you spend on groceries every month? Would you be horrified to know that I don’t keep track and I haven’t a clue? 
  4. Is there an errand that you hate running with a particular vengeance? Going to the gas station.  I like to play chicken with my tank. Side bonus – drives my husband bonkers.
  5. Have you ever had surgery? And for what? Nope. Never did anything remotely close to the things you’d have to do to get bones broken. 
  6. What day is garbage day? Tuesday and Monday.
  7. Are your parents married? Divorced? Married to other people? Married.
  8. Fill in the blanks. I think people are ____Hysterical_______ when they __make angry scenes at airports_________.
  9. Do you have a recurring dream? About what? Someone trying to get into the house – just got goosebumps…..
  10. Have you started your Christmas (or other winter holiday) shopping? No – but I did start feeling guilty about it. Does that count?
  11. Do you have a particular trait, characteristic, etc. that you do NOT want to pass on to your kids? I hope they are braver than me.