Question – how much of my life is spent waiting to pick up a teenager from a movie?
Answer : more hours than I spend actually watching movies.
Signed, moms everywhere
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29 Jul 2013 3 Comments
in I need to tell you about this right now Tags: Driving, Friendship, Kids, Movie, parenting, Photo, teens
Question – how much of my life is spent waiting to pick up a teenager from a movie?
Answer : more hours than I spend actually watching movies.
Signed, moms everywhere
28 Jul 2013 2 Comments
in I need to tell you about this right now Tags: cafeteria worker, cbs sunday morning, Chinese Food, Dinner, Eating, food, Habits, humor, Italian Food, Life, Lunch, Mexican Food, mild sweat, Photo, Psychology, Restaurants, Spicy Food, vegetable fried rice
Most Sunday mornings start the same way for me. If we don’t have anywhere to go I wake up to the sounds of CBS Sunday Morning. It’s usually my husband to my left and Charles Osgood and his bow tie to my right. Cozy.
It’s the perfect show. A little smart. A little silly. Lots of pictures. Perfect. I don’t remember a Sunday without it (or without 60 minutes for that matter).
This morning’s episode featured a Yale psychologist named Paul Bloom talking about a human’s need for pleasure. Pleasure through all sorts of things. At the end of that segment they talked about people who love spicy foods. So spicy that the experience borders on pain. This need to push pleasure onto the realm of mild pain is called “benign masochism”.
I perked right up. My husband perked right up. You see, he’s been married to a benign masochist for a long time, and now we finally have a name to my disease. I love…no adore…no need super spicy food. If there’s a mild sweat developing while I have my penne arrabiata – awesome. If the name of the food has the word Habanero in it – it’s for me! Do you know how many times my daughter has said,” why? Mom, why?” This is why!
I blame my upbringing. I blame my Indian heritage. I blame….how delicious everything spicy really is.
My family and friends have been so supportive – they’ve always hidden their horror.
They don’t laugh when I order Chinese food (vegetable fried rice, no eggs, no mushrooms, extra spicy).
They didn’t laugh when I, at 6 months pregnant with my son, asked the cafeteria worker in our conservative financial firm to remove the jalapeno decorations during a Mexican themed lunch so I could actually eat them. I had to.
They love me so much that when we go out for lunch or dinner or even breakfast, they never forget to ask for the crushed red pepper or hot sauce.
I’m surrounded by love. And hot peppers.
25 Jul 2013 Leave a comment
in I need to tell you about this right now Tags: 90s, ABC, answer phones, bright red lipstick, colorist, Entertainment, Glam, Grunge, humor, Intern, Life, Live with Regis and Kathie Lee, Photograph, plaid shirt, Television, tv, work
While I was hunting for old pictures last weekend I found this little gem.
Circa 1995.
My last day interning at Live with Regis and Kathie Lee, which I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. What does that mean? A deep down desire to be yelled at everyday for free? A need to be locked up with 13 other people in a room the size of a closet and answer phones all day? I’ll put it on the list for my future therapist.
Know what I notice? How silky and shiny my hair is. That hair had never seen a colorist or a straighter. I weep for that hair. It’s so youthful and carefree. It’s totally clueless to the frizzy years that are ahead. Sniff.
Ignore the purple plaid shirt (which happens to be buttoned all the way up – nice) and bright red lipstick. I couldn’t decide if I wanted to be grunge or glam – the 90s were confusing.
Thought I’d share.
23 Jul 2013 1 Comment
in I need to tell you about this right now Tags: American Ninja Warrior, Diet, Flowers, Gardening, health, Heat, humor, Life, Pennslyvania, Pennsy, Photograph, The Biggest Loser, Tropics, tv, Weather
It’s almost the end of July. Eastern Pennsylvania has once again turned into the tropics.
I know today isn’t Monday. I was going to post this yesterday but then I got roped into watching American Ninja Warrior.
Have you seen that show?
I like to have a bowl of ice cream while I watch. Which is also how I watch The Biggest Loser. I’m a rebel like that.
Have a good week everyone!
(my hydrangea plants didn’t die in the heat!)
21 Jul 2013 1 Comment
in I need to tell you about this right now Tags: College, dorm room, Family, Friends, happy memories, humor, Jobs, Life, love, marriage, math notes, New York City, old neighborhood, Photograph, story, Time, University
10 days into my life as a freshman in college, I walked over to my friend’s dorm room to see if she wanted to catch an early dinner. She couldn’t, she was helping an old neighborhood friend catch-up on some math notes. She introduced me to him and I gave her a look – sure you’re “studying”. Later that night she came over and I got the scoop. They really did just study. She had known him for years. She and her brother spent tons of time with his outgoing, friendly sister. Him, not so much. But he was cute. Super cute. And super intense. I found out everything about the dude. This guy was not here to have a good time. He didn’t laugh easily and he was almost always working. He was a bit of a loner. The few friends he had were loyal and protective – just like he was. This was the guy for me.
The next part of the story is up for debate. He says I stalked him until he gave in. I remember it differently. Same outcome. I was 19, he was 21.
College was a blur of happy memories. Summers in NYC, jobs on campus and off, friendships and drama and occasionally some classes. We broke up a few times, for a day or two. Then he apologized and I took him back (again, I’m sure he has a different version but this is my blog. There’s no fairness in blogging.)
He graduated before me and moved into an apartment down the block from the dorm. He had a roommate named JFK (seriously. and he was as quirky as his name.) By the time I graduated he got a better job and moved into his own place. I moved in quickly after.
He’s never said to me that “he needed space” or that “he’s not sure he wants to commit”. From the very first day he was all in.
What followed was the anti-NYC story. Marriage and babies in our late 20s and early 30s. It didn’t make sense to many – but it was so natural to us.
We are a bit of a mismatch. We always have been. Different things make us tick. As you know, I like to get to know people. any people. I love a good chat. I’m all about a party. I love to laugh, I do it often and at really silly stuff. On paper, I’m the kind of person that drives him batty and he’s the type of person that I would keep away from. He has an encyclopedic knowledge of music. I only know what I like. He’s emotional, intuitive and can breathe fire in a nanosecond. I’m pragmatic, fickle and it takes a lot to get me angry. But we have a really good time together. I won’t say the yin/yang thing because it’s not all that zen. It’s volatile and passionate and I wouldn’t last with anyone else.
A couple of days ago, on his 43rd birthday, 22 years into knowing him – I told him that this would be our best year yet. And he looked at me and said,”it better be.”
When I named this blog he couldn’t figure out why the word “wife” came before the word “mother”. He thought my role as a mother is what defined me, the thing that mattered the most to me. He was wrong.
Happy Birthday baby.
This post will make him extremely uncomfortable and exposed – so why not go for it and add photos right?
13 Jul 2013 6 Comments
in I need to tell you about this right now Tags: Book Club, Books, humor, Kosher, Life, lifestyle, Literature, Mom, motherhood, parenting, Philadelphia, Photograph, Reading, Women
Besides working and mothering and wife’ing – I try to have some fun. Just a little bit. Because I’m a frustrated English major deep inside, I’ve been talking to a few of my ‘hood moms about starting a book club. We talked a lot about starting it. For months we talked. But nothing happened. Then one of these marvy women suggested we join a club already in progress. One started and run by a group of responsible women who actually do what they say they want to do. Cool concept right?
So we dove in. Kind of. Work, kid stuff, and personal marital commitments (such as trying to see my husband for 5 minutes every night) got in the way. But I finally made a few meetings. And it was great.
The women who started this group are, ahem, seasoned. They’ve lived through divorce, remarriage, kids in college, retirement and multiple health issues. There’s a mix of life stages – women with young kids, older kids, grandkids and no kids. We rotate houses every month – this is my favorite part about the club, access to new peeks into how people live. If there was a club called just-go-see-how-other-people-live-every-month I’d so join it. I’d be the president of that club. And by the way, I am not interested in judging. I’m just extremely curious. inquisitive. Nosey.
Admittedly, all the books we’ve picked have been a bit morose – but the conversations have been anything but! Here’s a short list of what was covered in the last few meetings:
We fit in some books too…
Here’s a synopsis of what we thought –
Can’t wait for the next meeting!
12 Jul 2013 Leave a comment
in I need to tell you about this right now Tags: Cars, Driving, highway, humor, Photography, travel
10 Jul 2013 1 Comment
in Brave New World Tags: facebook, Family, food, humor, Life, lifestyle, Photos, Politics, Posting, Religious, Tech, transportation, travel
It’s been a slow trek back from vacation. And it seems like I’m not the only one. I hope you took some time off last week – even if it was just the one day (Independence day for the US and Canada Day in, well, Canada).
I know other folks have been having fun too. I know because I see the posts, the check-in’s, the status updates, the tweets. This is why I love technology. And this is why I really love Facebook. Pictures of babies, food, trips, renovations – bring it all. You know when you want to post how much you hated that movie you saw tonight and you stop yourself and think,”no one cares what I think about this movie” – I care. Go ahead and post it. I’m dying to read it.
You went to a family reunion last weekend? Great – let’s see the potato salad you brought over. You’re third cousin twice removed had a baby – she’s adorable. Keep posting those holiday outfit shots.
I’m not on it to talk you into any of my personal, religious or political views. I’m on it to be nosy. Nosy about things that I care about. Like what color you painted your dining room. Or to do what I like to call – photo eavesdropping. You know what I’m talking about.
My mother thinks Facebook is the devil. The door left open for psychos to come walking into your life. She might be right. But when I weigh that against my need to know all about your day/hour/second…it just isn’t that scary anymore.
I also love keeping connected to old and new relatives and friends.
When my daughter started high school we finally let her join the “network”. She promptly decided Facebook was not her speed when she found out her mother, her father, and all her aunts and uncles are all over it too.
She’s on to Twitter now. And Instagram. And SnapChat.
Excuse me while I go google those things.